6 WRONG REASONS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP

Getting involved with someone for the wrong reasons is one of the ways in which we create unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships.

(1) PRESSURE

When you make a decision to be with someone because of the pressure you feel (from yourself or others) rather than because the person seems the right one for you, you are giving your power away and ensuring an unhappy end to your love story.

(2) LONELINESS AND DESPERATION

When you are feeling lonely or desperate, you are much more likely to make poor love choices and end up in unfulfilling relationships. Be much pickier. Don't lower your standards just because you're feeling times are tough. You are not a store trying to get rid of old merchandise that puts it on sale -- you are a vulnerable, lovable human being who deserves to have the kind of relationship you want, not just the kind you think you can get.

(3) DISTRACTION FROM YOUR OWN LIFE

Some people have relationships because they are bored with the lack of passion and purpose in their lives, and rather than looking within to find out why they feel that way, they get involved in a love affair and make that their purpose. These relationships never work becuase you aren't in love with the person -- you're in love with the distraction.

(4) TO AVOID GROWING UP

Some people get into relationships not because they are ready to share the fullness of their own life with someone but because they want to be taken care of. These relationships are not about leaving and growing together -- they are about dependence.

(5) GUILT

You remain in romantic situations not because you want to stay, but because you are afraid of that might happen if you left.

(6) TO FILL UP YOUR EMOTIONAL OR SPIRITUAL EMPTINESS

If you have deep places of emptiness within you, no partner, regardless of how much they love you, will be able to fill that emptiness.