Some people just need to be reminded of good manners. At times, people's bad habits seem to be acceptable for others because we got used to them. Let's learn some good manners to practice for the rest of our lives so as not to influence others with our bad habits. And please, let's always check ourselves to stop continuing our bad manners.
1) Little arguing
As much as possible, you always try to avoid any argument when speaking with people. You do not have to impose your opinions and beliefs on others. You just have to recognize that each of us has a different perspective on things and events, basically because we have different experiences and we come from different backgrounds. You can be opinionated but, at all costs, you do not become disrespectful or self-righteous.
2) Listening well
A good listener is well-respected because he knows when it is the best time to not speak and just listen to what the other one has to say. You should know when and how not to interrupt the time given to others to express their side or opinion. Being able to listen well is also an opportunity for the listener to learn from other people's knowledge, wisdom and experiences. As a good listener, you give yourself the time to ponder, weigh and analyze things more appropriately and constructively.
3) Avoiding searching for shortcomings
Always give the benefit of the doubt to other people before judging them or their actions. As much as possible, you find a possible excuse for other people so you avoid making an insignificant action or event grow into a big issue. When you find a good excuse, then you stop worrying and overthinking about it and just end it in that good excuse.
6) Patience when annoyed
7) Blaming one's own self, and not others
9) Having a beaming face with the young and old
10) Saying kind words to those who are below and above one (with regards to religious knowledge, righteousness, social status, and so forth)
Kindness is goodness. You are kind when you don't allow yourself to become a source of struggle or difficulty for other people. Instead, you are the one reaching out to help them or make their lives easier somehow. You grab every opportunity to be of help and be a source of ease for others, whether you can benefit from them or not in any way, you are not selective.
10 SIGNS OF GOOD MANNERS:
1) Little arguing
As much as possible, you always try to avoid any argument when speaking with people. You do not have to impose your opinions and beliefs on others. You just have to recognize that each of us has a different perspective on things and events, basically because we have different experiences and we come from different backgrounds. You can be opinionated but, at all costs, you do not become disrespectful or self-righteous.
2) Listening well
A good listener is well-respected because he knows when it is the best time to not speak and just listen to what the other one has to say. You should know when and how not to interrupt the time given to others to express their side or opinion. Being able to listen well is also an opportunity for the listener to learn from other people's knowledge, wisdom and experiences. As a good listener, you give yourself the time to ponder, weigh and analyze things more appropriately and constructively.
3) Avoiding searching for shortcomings
Indeed, the person who only sees the goodness of people is such a blessed being. The positivity of your vision creates a positive impact in your life and in your world. You do not allow yourself to see a shortcoming of others because you do not want others to do the same to you. You are well-aware that shortcomings are natural to every human being, and pointing them out does not make yourself any better than the other person. So, you simply ignore the shortcomings and let them pass because, perhaps, they do not really concern you and you simply should not be bothered by them.
4) Covering mistakes
4) Covering mistakes
Telling others about people's mistakes is a disease that you should eradicate from your system. Mistakes could happen out of ignorance, lack of judgement or clumsiness and many other reasons. These mistakes could have happened because of many factors affecting a certain situation, which you may not be aware of. Telling them to other people does not autocorrect the mistakes. Instead, it is better to cover the mistakes of others so that it does not lead to making mistakes of your own like backbiting and slandering.
5) Finding a good excuse
5) Finding a good excuse
Always give the benefit of the doubt to other people before judging them or their actions. As much as possible, you find a possible excuse for other people so you avoid making an insignificant action or event grow into a big issue. When you find a good excuse, then you stop worrying and overthinking about it and just end it in that good excuse.
6) Patience when annoyed
There is no better virtue than patience at a time when you are almost losing your cool. It gives you the time to evaluate the situation and re-think what you can say or do so that you do not regret it afterwards. Getting annoyed by people or by a situation is something you might not be able to control. However, how you react to them is what you can certainly control. So, you must always make sure to practice a lot of patience all the time.
7) Blaming one's own self, and not others
Blaming only yourself of something that happens to you is the most mature thing that you can do. It makes you a responsible person. This is not necessarily negative. In fact, you can make it into something constructive by opening your mind and re-analyzing everything that happens and make it into an opportunity to be able to correct your own mistakes and strive to not do it again. In the end, blaming yourself will make you a better person.
8) Seeing one's fault rather than other people's faults
8) Seeing one's fault rather than other people's faults
You know that you yourself alone is a complicated being. You cannot anticipate everything that you do. There's too much happening to you and too many things going on in your life. You have so many decisions to make, so many things to say and do. So, you do not bother seeing other people's faults. It is none of your business. Your business is yourself. You know that you should be more concerned about your own faults and try to reform yourself to become a better person.
9) Having a beaming face with the young and old
Smiling itself is charity. You start your day with a smile. You know that it is for your own well-being. It brightens your day. And when you smile at other people, your positivity reverberates unto them. They feel the warm welcome from your side. Your happiness radiates and it has a positive effect upon others.
10) Saying kind words to those who are below and above one (with regards to religious knowledge, righteousness, social status, and so forth)
Kindness is goodness. You are kind when you don't allow yourself to become a source of struggle or difficulty for other people. Instead, you are the one reaching out to help them or make their lives easier somehow. You grab every opportunity to be of help and be a source of ease for others, whether you can benefit from them or not in any way, you are not selective.
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